Sinatra_Z - Love and Marriage

I was thinking of writing something rather heavy,
but since it's Monday let's not do that,
something that would go well with coffee would be nice.

So yeah....

Went to a wedding last Friday,
apart from feeling rather embarrassed as everyone else looked rather dashing (while I was wearing my office attire coupled with my work pass) I actually learned something there.

The MC of the wedding whom I believe is the Uncle of the groom gave some good advice to the newlyweds, he said

"Ikut apa Uncle Nasihat ye, bukan ikut apa Uncle buat."

Dodgy indeed...
Anyway he said that...

There are 3 Rules of Mariage.

Rule number 1 is that in life like the Army there are Generals and Majors. Generals being the leader are the decision maker while Major are the one's that implements the decisions. So in a marriage, Husband being the man of the household is definitely the General while his wife is the Major. But with a slight difference, husband being the General means he will make general decisions while the wife being the Major will make the major decisions.

Rule number 2 is that immediately after a marriage the couple must open a joint account. By a joint account it means the husband will deposit the money while the wife withdraws it.

Finally rule number 3, the first 5 years the husband will do the talking while the wife listens, then the following 5 years the wife will then do the talking and the husband listens and the following 5 years the husband will do the talking, the wife will do the talking and the neighbour listens.


Some of my friends are getting married in the upcoming months and I wish for all the best for them. May they only marry once, have loads of arguments in the upcoming years and many more make up sessions after that.

If you need some pointers on how to have a long lasting marriage,
maybe this can help...

http://lipassepi.blogspot.com/2008/07/sinatraz-berkarangan-bahasa-inggeris.html

You don't need flowers or chocolates or corny poetry.
Sometimes it's in the most mundane things in life...... Like buying fish.

Frank Sinatra once sang
Love and Marriage.. They go together like a horse and carriage.

As for me?

Well that has been answered in a conversation I had just before the wedding..

"Kak tak pergi ke kenduri?"

"Malam ni ada hal la, takpelah awak punya nanti saya mesti pergi."

"Alaa kenduri apa nya, calon pun belum ada lagi."

"Itulah kena sabat menanti."

"Masaalahnya kak, menanti pun belum lagi.."


Lambat lagi nampaknya, muda lagi tu.


P/S-

Abang aku pun belum kahwin lagi.... Aku tunggu dia dulu. Kuang Kuang Kuang

Sinatra_Z - Soalan Percubaan SPM Sabah 2008 English Paper 1

http://www.scribd.com/doc/7548573/SPM-Percubaan-2008-Sabah-English-Language-Paper-1


Soalan Percubaan SPM English Paper 1 (Negeri Sabah)

Section B : Continuous Writing

Write a composition of about 350 words on one of the following topics.

Question 5 - Rivers




RIVERS

Written by : Zaidel Baharuddin

Sekolah Menengah Kebangsaan Batang You

(Revised Version)

When the word river is mentioned the image that comes into my mind is one big drain or “longkang” with "The Tarik" coloured water flowing in it. Try taking the LRT from Wangsa Maju station to city centre in which you pass above the gombak river and then you will get what I mean. Due to the torrential rainfall the government had renovated (if that is even the proper word) or reconstructed the Gombak River into one big concrete drain to avoid overflowing of rainwater thus resulting in a muddy city flood. As for the colour of the water, it is a result of the mud from the bed of the river plus the strong faith of the citizens of Kuala Lumpur who truly believe that everything that is thrown into the river will be magically dissolved. Sort of like the messiah of the Sungai Gombak (Gombak River).


Urban Legend has it that the fishes in Sungai Gombak is very large and somewhat healthy thanks to their diet provided by the richness of the river. Nutrients derived from things such as Nasi Kandar, Kentucky Friend Chicken, various Curry dishes and many more in the form of human excrement (i.e dung/shit/crap) supposedly helped in ensuring that fishes in Sungai Gombak are very well fed. The Sungai Gombak begins from the Klang Gate water reservoir and flows through Hulu Kelang and into the heart of Kuala Lumpur. It then will merge with Sungai Kelang (Kelang River), it is there where one of the oldest mosque in Kuala Lumpur is located. It is known as Majid Jamek. Masjid Jamek Kuala Lumpur is built upon the bank in which the two great rivers meet (Kelang and Gombak) and it is supposed to be the heart of Kuala Lumpur. Jalan P Ramlee on the other hand is known as the soul of Kuala Lumpur while Lorong Haji taib would be the arse hole of Kuala Lumpur. Bukit Bintang and Bukit Tunku on the other hand are the bosoms of Kuala Lumpur while Kl Tower is the...... you know let’s not go astray from the topic of this essay into the intimate discussions of Kuala Lumpur’s anatomy.


Back to rivers, Kuala Lumpur surprisingly has a lot of rivers. Apart from the famous Sungai Kelang and Sungai Gombak it is also the home of several other small rivers like Sungai Pisang (banana) located near Karak Highway, Jeram (Rapids) Kelang Gate , Sungai Pasir and many more. Rivers play an important role in an urban society like Kuala Lumpur. Apart from being an important water source it is also a key factor in the urban ecosystem, in which river is an integral part in molding the human habitat. Rivers can be the place where family can go for a picnic or spend some leisurely time playing around thus forging a better relationship between the family members. History tells us that rivers are the birthplace of great civilizations which create culture, arts and generate the economy. A prime example of the importance of a river in an urban society in Kuala Lumpur would be Sungei Wang (money river). This is a river where apart from just water flowing (the fountain at the entrance) it is also the place where city revelers can have a decent picnic at any of the cafes and restaurants located there. Apart from that it is also the centre of economic activity where hundreds of traders try to sell their products and services. Family can spend time watching movies, playing at the arcade, buying things, picnic and even karaoke right in the middle of the bustling madness of the city. Which is a testament of the magical effect a river can have on an urban society.


Like the great rivers of Tigris and Euphrates, Sungei Wang is also the cradle of culture and arts. Sungei Wang is known as the place of arts and culture movements such as the Japanese Wannabe fashion trends where bundles of young artisans congregate at Sungei Wang with their coloured spiky hair, funny platform shoes and garishly coloured shirts that clash with their pants or skirts. These young artisans would then listen to poetic rendition by great poets of their time like Jay Chou, F4 or S.H.E. If Tigris and Euphrates is known for the Hanging Gardens of Babylon Sungei Wang is known for it’s architectural marvel of having a huge food court at the top, something like a Hanging Foodcourt one would say. From Para-para dancing to the literary work of Sun Comics Sungei Wang is indeed the cradle of culture in the heart of Kuala Lumpur.


Indeed rivers plays an important role in the ecosystem. Apart from being the source of water, a place to wash your arse after a dumb or just a venue for you to wash your car, rivers can act as the glue that binds society. It can be the place where family spend time, friends karaoke together or just a place where pimpled teenagers with fashion disorder seek attention from each other. I may come from a metropolis like Kuala Lumpur, but the rivers in Kuala Lumpur have a special bond to my heart and acts as the bind that ties my fat, lazy, capitalistic fast food body to nature.

Sinatra_Z - Sayap Kanan

Assalamualaikum,
Saya Sinatra_Z telah membuka satu lagi blog untuk kegiatan masa lapang saya yakni Politik.

Ye selain dari menulis cerita pendek, menonton anime, meminum teh hijau berperisa bunga Jasmine jenama Pokka, memakan keropok pahit belinjau, mendengar klasik nasional, menyanyi lagu Frank Sinatra, berjalan kaki ke pejabat, menonton dokumentari ataupun meminum teh bersama Soh Kee Yoong.

Kegiatan masa lapang saya ialah berpolitik untuk kebaikan rakyat jelata.

Maka penulisan saya yang berunsur politik mahupun pandangan mengenai sesuatu dasar yang melibatkan negara akan saya letakkan di blog berkenaan.

Namun dunia siber bukanlah satu-satunya ruang politik saya. Seperti encik Sivakumar dari Perak saya juga aktif dalam kegiatan politik di bawah pokok sambil memakan cendol dan membuat dasar.

Janganlah anda berasa segan mahupun tidak mahu membaca cerita-cerita saya hanya kerana anda mempunyai fahaman atau pendapat politik yang berlainan. Kita kan sama-sama manusia, warganegara Malaysia (atau bukan) dan semua pihak mempunyai pendapat dan perjuangan masing-masing. Yang cuma membezakan perjuangan dan pendapat kita adalah perjuangan aliran sayap kanan lebih EPIC WIN DAN HEBAT SERTA BETUL DAN TANGKAS!

Oh yeah...... hahahahahaha, jangan marah haaa....

Singgah-singgahlah ke sebelah sana kalau anda hendak "berpolitical engineering" dengan saya.

haluankanan.blogspot.com - Berani, Benar dan Berfikir

Tak payahlah nak sorok-sorok,
apa nak dimalukan, BN banyak berjasa walaupun ada kelemahan tersendiri. Ye saya ahli UMNO tapi saya bukan seorang yang bersifat perkauman, masakan BN mempunyai semangat setiakawan sejak tahun 1957 lagi.


Lagipun saya tak pernah tikam Soh Kee Yong pakai keris.
Paling kuat pun saya curi makan roti canai dia.
Dia tak marah laaa.


Tu je....

Sinatra_Z - If Only

If only....






Now if you can excuse me,
I am going to escape to some nerdy otakuish shoujo manga sort of fantasy.

It's like how MU Fanboys felt when Liverpool thrashed them,
Only difference is I don't watch football.

You get what I mean.



Sigh...

Sinatra_Z - Soalan Sejarah SPM

Soalah Spot Sejarah SPM 2009 bersama dengan Che'gu Zaidel.

Soalan Objektif

1) Siapa Perdana Menteri Malaysia ke 6

a) Najib Tun Razak
b) Abdullah Ahmad Badawi
c) Anwar Ibrahim
d) Rosmah Mansor


2) Pada tarikh apakah perdana Menteri Malaysia ke 6 Dilantik

a) 31 Ogos 2009
b) 3 April 2009
c) 16 September 2008
d) 14 Febuari 2007


3) Pada 16 September 2008 Datuk Seri Anwar Ibrahim mengangkat sumpah sebagai Perdana Menteri Malaysia ke 6 di hadapan...

a) Potret Yang Dipertuan Agong
b) Tuanku Karpal Singh (Singh is King)
c) Cermin
d) Duli Yang Maha Mulia Seri Paduka Baginda Sultan Brunei


4) Pada tahun 2008 Parlimen Malaysia menyaksikan perbuhana kuasa setelah ketua pembangkang mendapat bilangan kerusi yang mencukupi dari

a) Ahli Parlimen Barisan Nasional
b) Ikea
c) Kedai Perabot Wong Ah Tong and Sons
d) Dewan Undangan Negeri Perak


5) Pada 12 September 2008 Ahli Parlimen YB Tian Chua telah ke Taiwan bersama rombongan beberapa ahli politik dari Pakatan Rakyat untuk?

a) Belajar mengenai penanaman Dragon Fruit
b) Mengambil kursus pendek pertanian
c) Berkaraoke bersama ahli parlimen BN
d) Mengajak mereka untuk melompat parti


6) Gerakan popular rakyat yang dipelopori oleh aktivis kaum India yang memberi kesan dalam keputusan pilihanraya ke 12 dikenali sebagai

a) Makkal Sakhti
b) Makkal Ossai
c) Muthel (Telur) Tosai
d) Rawa Tosai


7) Siapakah di antara berikut merupakan pemimpin kanan dalam gerakan aktivis Hindu yang dekenali sebagai Hindraf?

a) Vellupillai Prabakharan
b) P Uthayakumar
c) P Ramlee
d) Sivaji The Boss


8) Bilakah perdana Menteri Malaysia ke 7 akan dilantik

a) 16 September 2009
b) 16 September 2012
c) 16 September 2020
d) Sebelum Kiamat


9) Dewan Undangan Negeri Perak mencatat sejarah pada tahun 2009 apabila mengadakan persidangan di....

a) Bawak Pokok
b) Tepi Longkang
c) Gerai Cendol bawah pokok dekat roundabout depan super kinta
d) Kedai Mamak


10) Pakatan Rakyat telah memulakan gerakan untuk memulihkan Imuniti dan memperkenalkan undang-undang memperkasakan kembali institusi beraja namun ianya telah dihentikan kerana

a) Menteri Besar mereka Mohon Derhaka
b) mereka insaf
c) Kerana raja sebenar di Malaysia ialah Karpal Singh dan bukan Sultan
d) Sebab Karpal Singh meminta Anwar Insaf di dalam TV.


11) Perdana Menteri Malaysia ke 6 sering dikaitkan dengan negara mana?

a) China
b) Mongolia
c) Singapore
d) Israel


12) Siapakah yang dimaksudkan sebagai pemimpin Malaysia yang digelar sebagai Khalifah Umar Abdul Aziz oleh Naib Presiden PAS Husam Musa?

a) Nik Aziz
b) Abdul Hadi Awang
c) Khairy Jamaluddin
d) Lim Guan Eng


13) Khalifah Umar Abdul Aziz Malaysia menentang perlaksanaan undang-undang?

a) Pemakaian tali keledar belakang
b) Jalanraya persekutuan
c) Tubuh Syarikat persendirian
d) Hudud dan Qisas


14) Perdana Menteri Malaysia yang ke 5 diberi gelaran sebagai..

a) Bapa Permodenan
b) Bapa Demokrasi
c) Bapa Mertua Khairy Jamaluddin
d) Bapa kali dah dia mau tidur.


15) Kegagalan Anwar Ibrahim menjadi Perdana Menteri ke 6 Malaysia pada tarikh 16 September 2008 adalah kerana?

a) Parlimen tidak bersidang pada tarikh berkenaan
b) Tuanku tidak perkenan perlantikan beliau
c) Kerusi yang beliau dapat adalah dari Ikea
d) Beliau mengunggu Pak Lah mebalas surat beliau kerana pada akhir surat ada ditulis pecah kaca pecah gelas, sudah baca harap balas.

Soalan-Soalan Subjektif

Soalan 1

Terangkan mengapa pada awalnya Anwar Ibrahim pada mulanya hendak mengusulkan Undi tidak percaya terhadap Abdullah Ahmad Badawi sebagai Perdana Menteri Malaysia kemudian mengubah fikiran untuk mengusulkan Undi Percaya kepada beliau selaku Perdana Menteri Malaysia?


Soalan 2

Apakah Perbezaan di antara gerakan untuk melompat parti pada 16 september, gerakan ahli DUN BN Perak Melompat parti ke PKR dan kejadian perubahan kuasa di Perak akibat beberapa ahli DUN lompat kelaur dari Parti PKR dan DAP?


Soalan 3

Kejadian apakah yang mengakbiatkan penyokong PAS beramai-ramai berbaring-baring di sekitar Jalan Raya di Ipoh dan apakah kesan atas tindakan berbaring-baring mereka itu?


Soalan 4

Mengapakah yang dipertuan agong berhak melantik Dato Seri Anwar Ibrahim sebagai Perdana Menteri Malaysia tetapi Sultan Perak tidak berhak Melantik Zambry Kadir sebagai Menteri Besar Perak?

Sinatra_Z - Divine Tea

You know,
I really like,
Sitting in a windy night,
or a comfortable afternoon,
while sipping some divine tea.
Coupled with a very good company.

Some snacks would be swell,
and a cat would be nice as well.

We can talk about life,
or some nostalgic romance,
no need to pretend to be nice,
you can rant and flame till your heart is all pleased.

No story today,
sorry.... don't feel like writing anything.

So have a good Monday.
The surprising thing,
I don't actually dread the day.
I happen to like the morning greeting.

So drop me a line,
if you feel a bit low,
maybe if the sun decides to shine,
and if we are a little lucky,

we can sit down and have some divine tea......

And maybe it's on me.

Sinatra_Z - Modern Malay Men

Before I go on just let me clarify certain things.

First I know for sure that not all Malay men are similar.
This may seem as Racial profiling and men may be generally the same but I don't hear much stories regarding their counterparts in other races (as I am not that exposed).
And that I may be wrong as I am still young and very much inexperienced.

My personal observation..

I notice that recently,
Malay men and by that I mean married Malay, a rather alarming number have a tendency to cheat or at least flirt around, minimal. It is somewhat normal that I hear stories that these men have affairs, well to be more precise not affairs but have some sort of fling or one night stands. As the Malay saying goes "makan luar rumah".

Many of which comes the type of men that still clings to the lifestyle and activities they do when they were still single. At first it may be as harmless as hanging out with friend in mamak or playing a game of Futsal with fellow friends. Then it somewhat progressed into picking up chicks in clubs and bars and even at the workplace. It has become a norm that I hear stories of married men flirt around. Which though quite harmless and ironic (as I am of the same gender) that I find that there is something really wrong in this scenario.

Boys will always be boys and that flirting around is I guess a given thing. But lately after seeing alot of divorce cases especially amongst young couples it made me think. Before this I would either not take side, blame both of the couple and sometimes (yes I was somewhat biased) the wife. But now, I daresay, if there is 10 divorce cases in the syariah court 8 cases (or even 9) can be easily blamed on the husband. Either the husband is a dick, player or just plain lazy arse who just can't be bothered to provice for his family.

You see, even with my limited (and I mean very limited) experience regarding relationship once a relationship goes to the point of commitment, women tend to be very comitted and loyal to that relationship which is a general knowledge. So when talking about marriage, women are very unlikely to screw around or break it off. They are very loyal and committed to it because to them it seems that they have more things to lose if the marriage fails. And in the Malaysian context I have seen several cases where the women are willing to close one eye to their husbands misdeeds or fault for the sake of the marriage. Malaysian women generally have a quite impressive tolerance to their husbands err or dodgy dealings one could say. So I came to the conclusion that when there is a divorce especially among the Malay couples than the husband must have screwed up really-really well. What make me even amazed (if that is even the right word) is the number of divorce cases among malay couples.

I don't work with any NGO or some statistical body so my observation which can be questionable are based on stories I hear and surprisingly from the radio. One of the most popular morning radio show would be the Sinar Pagi on Sinar FM which is a Malay radio show. They would have callers telling their stories about marriage problems and such and I am somewhat amazed at the tolerance of some of these wives. They are angry at their husband for playing or fooling around yet can at the same time forgive him completely if he just would stop it. Some just resort to rant or tell their sob story at the radio and pray that someday their husband would come back to the right path.

Even amongst friends I notice that these young men are somewhat got married before their mentality is ready for marriage. Many want to continue their single lifestyle and seem marriage as an insurance or a place when one can fall back to when things don't seem to go to their way. Which is a very sad thing. Let's not talk about cases where long term marriage get's screwed because after the husband succeeds and becomes wealthy after all the years of hardships decided to have a fling with a young actress of some sort. Ditching your wife after she has been through thick and thin after all these years and when the hard work has come to fruition you decide to share it with some young leggy broad is not something to be proud of. Then there is also the lazy men who are more interested in chasing that dubious dreams like getting that big contract by client entertaining and business networking. Always too shoddy to do the grunt work and leave the wife as the provider for the family. Whatever happened to good old hardworking Malay Family Man who had always been the rock. The strict diciplined father...

But hold on,
it get's even better. As my logic thoughts goes on and on I find it even more amazing that....

There are always, in any cases there would always be the willing female.

There would always be some young girl who would fall or these married men, who would date and believe in their dubious dreams. Girls or young ladies with career that can cleanse all of their scepticism and suspicion by a simple sweet talking. Seriously these girls can be very cheap and by that I mean very low cost to maintain, just words, forget the sexy gold digger seductress all it takes are just a few minutes in the phone or some heart melting SMS. They actually fall in love with these men.

Is there really a shortage of men in Malaysia?

Or is it a general principle that married men are much more attractive.

I mean take a look at that successful female singer who decided to marry a married men who is older than she is. He ditch his wife to marry this young lovely lady, the wife who was with him before he becomes rich and sucesfful after all those years. Didn't she thought about that, and when they were courting he obviously is a married men.

Again,
this is just a narrow selective observation and not all Malay men are like this.
It's just that I was wondering you know, and please feel free to prove me wrong.


P/S
You know what, it may be easy for me to write this now but who knows, maybe someday I might turn into someone like that. You never know, seriously. I may be all gung ho right now but I guess temptation is always there.

I hope I wont...........